Stimming is short for “self-stimulatory behavior” which is essentially any repetitive behavior or action that provides input to the person doing it. Most parents wouldn't think anything of it. So with that said… Here are 5 behaviors neurotypicals can do that autistics can’t. My 15 month old son flaps his arms when excited,he doesn’t attempt to talk much and doesn’t always respond to his name.He also gets very frustrated by things , which he shows physical signs of ( by clenching his fists and almost growls) should i be worried about any of this? Have you ever my 5-year-old flaps her hands a lot when excited, even just a bit, and has a an expression of excitement with mouth open to go with it. Even adults do it! Hand flapping is not harmful whatsoever and if you’re wanting to get rid of it because it’s “annoying” or “worrisome” then you’re being incredibly ableist and you need to educate yourself and quit being abusive. But thats the good thing, through experience alot of individuals with autistic label might handle life better than ever. If the combination of these behaviors is worrying you, then yes you should be concerned. Reach out to your pediatrician who can perform a developmental screen on your son to see if he needs further evaluation. Hand Flapping (and other self-stim)! i do not have autism,but i still flap my hands when im excited…like when watching a video of a famous sportsperson…i kind of imagine myself as that person and start flapping my hands…it makes me feel good…but i guess it’s not common…what category does my hand flapping fall upon? Most of the time, hand flapping is nothing to worry about. Because those negative views from the medical community help shape the views by society overall. Children may also do it when excited or upset, and it can be very hard to distract an autistic child away from their self-stimulatory behavior. What I think the underlying question is trying to discern is “Are these same behaviors perceived the same by different neurotypes? Your email address will not be published. See, one of the things that these therapies work on is “appropriate play” because autistic children tend to play with toys in different ways than neurotypical children. https://www.reddit.com/user/RCBLAZEreal/draft/3c2a5228-dc92-11ea-be1c-be20a4034f97. So in this post I’m going to share five specific behaviors that my non-autistic son (along with most neurotypicals) can freely use that autistic children and adults are pathologized for. In the center coral and teal text reads: “5 Things Neurotypicals Do That Autistics Can’t”. Reviewed by Dr. Sara Connolly, April 2019. An ABA therapist would surely focus on extinguishing the dance in the same way that so many today seek to extinguish hand flapping. I wasn't worried about it at all but stupidly googled it and lots of information came up Sometimes I now choose the harder way, when its about communication, just to learn from it. They’re seen as socially acceptable, but that’s only because there are so many neurotypicals in the world that you likely see someone do it every day. When she does get upset it isn’t to difficult to make her understand things. In developmentally typical children, hand flapping looks quite the same and it also occurs when the child is in a heightened emotional state, but it's for a different purpose. Some very common types of bad stimming are hitting your head into walls, punching yourself, punching things, kicking things, skin pcking. Tell us who you are! If hand flapping is causing a problem in school or the child is receiving negative social attention from the behavior, then it's time to think about intervention. We take him out places and he won’t care to interact with other children but my 4 in a half year old who was diagnosed with ADHD will. And the only reason that neurotypical people’s behavior is seen as normal is because there are more neurotypicals than there are autistics. this post is offensive, Im autistic and I can all of this, of course no one understands, if your not autistic, probably a no brainer, just stop, this post is offensive, Im autistic and I can all of this, of course no one understands, if your not autistic, probably a no brainer, just stop It’s odd to me how naturally people see neurotypical behaviors as completely different than autistic behaviors in society at large. My current fix is to sit on my hands, or to pick up a koosh ball I have at my desk so it looks more like I'm just playing with the koosh opposed to just flapping my hand. We use your name to make your comments, emails, and notifications more personal. Me neither, and it would have been very welcomed … If you don't think your son is autistic, he probably isn't. Some children with autism “hand flap” as a self-stimulatory behavior. Of course autistics are the ones with communication struggles. A person with ASD might: 1. It can also become a habit. “Autistic Children Play WRONG. You are absolutely right! Required fields are marked *. Yes, yes and yes! She engaged in endless “stimming”—humming, hand-flapping, running back and forth across rooms—and loved drinking water, eating mustard and hot dog buns, and watching and rewatching the same scenes from The Little. Hand flapping is just a mannerism and if it shows up when he's excited, it's just a happy mannerism. And those are totally stims. My daughter is 3 and shes been doing this for well over a year now..wen upset and angry..also she jumps in her crib alot and shes not good with being around other people especially adults. On the flip side, autistic children are taught from an early age that their body is not their own. Big hugs! It's behaviour that's entirely consistent with his condition. The reason that it is associated with autism is that autistic children are less likely to grow out of it later on but even then you can find older children who flap and are not autistic - they just learn to hide it. So next time you are thinking about a typical autistic behavior being weird, unacceptable, or pathological, remember that neurotypicals probably do a version of that same exact behavior. That would only make everything worse, wouldn’t it? Seeing these behaviors as inherently negative (but only when it’s an autistic person doing them) causes real harm to the autistic community when we’re just trying to live our lives like every other person. Certain known genetic disorders are associated with an increased risk for autism, including Fragile X syndrome (which causes intellectual disability) and tuberous sclerosis (which causes benign tumors to grow in the brain and other vital organs) — each of which results from a mutation in a single, but different, gene. Teal and coral Autistic Mama infinity logo after “Autistic Mama”.). Autistic people are widely seen as having significant communication struggles. Well I don’t give a damn who is the in majority but well written. Talk with your pediatrician about a developmental evaluation so you can meet his needs early. But because autistic people’s stims tend to be seen as distracting or more extreme, but I would argue that it’s only because there are less autistics in the world, and you haven’t seen our stims as often. Yes, I think the combination of these behaviors is what is concerning here. Hand flapping alone, is often normal. Keep up your work, its good to read “normal” people have more in common with people holding the autism spectrum label than one would admit. My 5 year old flaps her hands a lot when excited she also does a face to go with it where her mouth is open, she even does it at school and I’m worried it will effect her. If he is developing normally, I would not worry at all. Parents are often concerned when they see hand flapping because it can be one of the signs seen in children with autism. Combined, they make me more concerned that there may be a developmental or psychosocial issue. It's the best way to enjoy everything Bundoo. Obviously, neither of those are great options. My 3 in a half year old flaps his hands when he really excited as well, he doesn’t talk much morebabbles a lot making up his own words and when we call his name it’s like he’s day dreaming or stuck. Cause I’m not going to admit either too myself or others that the people bullying me at school(also a teacher can be quite a dick) if you want to use that term) were right all along. It may seem When people with autism stim, they might do it in ways that are obvious and less socially accepted—like hand-flapping, rocking back and forth, or … But so is bouncing your leg while sitting, chewing your nails, or twirling your hair. Without knowing your daughter’s age and other development, I can not tell you whether or not to be worried. In a person with autism, stimming usually refers to specific behaviors that include hand-flapping, rocking, spinning, or repetition of words and phrases While I understand these can fall into categories of normal childhood behavior, it has become a problem at home and in school. Encourage or Discourage? He does this when he is excited or tired. Some very common types of good stimming are hand flapping, rubbing hands, twitching fingers, moving feet, rocking. Is Your Child's Goal Autistic-Lead or Does it Center Neurotypicals. The term "stimming" is short for self-stimulatory behavior and is sometimes also called "stereotypic" behavior. And while some autistic people are non-speaking, or require another form of communication like PECS or an AAC Device, there are many of us who speak and communicate clearly. Simple behavioral therapy can help a child learn to control impulsive hand flapping. I’ve actually been advised several times to restrict my son’s access to his special interests and try to force him into other topics. Hand flapping usually occurs in preschoolers or toddlers and looks like the child is rapidly waving his or her hands at the wrist while holding the arms bent at the elbow. Have trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about their own feelings 6. A man with AS may display unusual nonverbal communication, such as lack of eye contact or eye contact that is too intense, few facial expressions, or … Okay, I’ll be honest and say that this one has never made sense to me. Most parents wouldn't think anything of it. Of course they’re the ones with black and white thinking. Isolated hand flapping can be totally normal. However, we have had some issues with inappropriate behavior with other kids, drawn out tantrums, losing focus, getting angry to the point of hitting someone or himself, doesn’t listen when told to do something. But so is bouncing your leg while sitting, chewing your nails, or twirling your hair. Do you have any advice? But you pointed out there are several other worrisome aspects to your child’s behavior. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Intervention is most effective when done in the preschool years! Hand flapping happens in both developmentally typical and developmentally atypical children. Forcing children to sit quietly by restraining their hands doesn’t help them improve My son is in the spectrum and the hand flapping/sensory stuff was the least noticeable symptom. Please explain how you would define neurotypical. And yet autistics are the ones who have communication struggles?? Maybe they can tell you every single dinosaur’s scientific name, or maybe they are obsessed with making new cupcake flavor combinations like my son. im kind of embarassed talking about this…. On the other hand, my autistic son’s behaviors were given two options. Parents are often concerned when they see hand flapping because it can be one of the signs seen in children with autism. What does hand flapping look like in developmentally typical children, and when should you worry? Other self-stimulatory behaviors sometimes seen in children with autism include rocking and spinning. (Inside: Autistics have their behaviors pathologized, while neurotypicals do the same things without issue. It is nothing to be ashamed of in a child or an adult! Hand flapping and other unusual hand movements are definitely an action that many ASD kids partake in, BUT also many toddlers and young children who are neurotypical! That is, they have one or two specific things that they focus completely on. And while it may seem trivial… I mean, why does it really matter if my autistic son’s behaviors are used as indicators of autism or seen negatively by the medical community? Just brought it up previously just in case it is relevant. That’s because most of the public’s understanding of the condition applies primarily to boys and men. She will be going into 1st year next year and I’m really worried as to how the other children will react to her, but how do I help her without making her feel self-aware??? If it bothers her, then I would ask your pediatrician’s opinion as they know her best! 1) Hand flapping Watch those little hands. If they don’t want someone to touch them or they don’t want to move their body in a certain way, they’re allowed to stand up for themselves. Neurotypical children obsess over things all the time. For a long time, inventions were the only thing he’d talk to people about, the only thing he’d write about or draw, and the only thing he’d play was inventing games. Yes, that is indeed the point I was trying to make. But maybe, just maybe, neurotypicals and autistics have a lot more in common than society thinks. And as always, remember that autistic behaviors are valid, and we only want to be accepted. The hand flapping is only a problem if it bothers the child. Hand flapping has been associated with “autism” for years now. Hi, My 5 month old has been hand flapping for a week now. These behaviors help them calm themselves or regulate their emotional states. 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